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virtual mentors

Plato, Leo Tolstoy, Whitney Cummings, Derek Sivers, James Altucher, Jean-Paul Sartre. These are my virtual mentors.

Maybe new ones will be added when I know more about them.

What have I learned from these people? I like to imagine I am talking to them in a meeting, when I need life advice.

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Plato: [works about human nature, society, ideals]

-play and leisure are important

-the emotion of passion ['pathos'] is a good thing

-beauty comes after the struggle

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Leo Tolstoy: [works about moral and existential questions, love, moral struggles, complex human emotions]

-be present & quit working for a while

-don't go to lectures and far away locations to learn, learn at the library

-good vs. good is better than a good vs. bad story

-if you are indecisive, act quickly even if first step is unnecessary

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Derek Sivers: [writings about creativity, independence, questioning social expectations, alternative ways of living]

-experience extremes

-combine different strategies of living/different philosophies

-don't be critical towards yourself thinking that you wasted all this time adhering to one philosophy because ways of living change [sometimes we value balance and sometimes we want to go all-in]

-daydream diverse life scenarios

-execute other people's ideas and imitate the best strategies of your competitors

-certain skills multiply success of main pursuit

-start your life from scratch in another part of the globe

-if a habit forms, try an opposite action to stop the pattern

-see what else could work and don't just have one goal

-suss out the unnecessary details of your goal in order to get there the most efficient way possible

-no competitive edge exists from consuming the same content everyone else is consuming

-customer service is the new marketing

-if something is really too challenging, it might not be the right fit and you can quit

-do what excites [you which you can find outside your passion]

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James Altucher: [writings about vulnerability, authenticity, reinvention, resilience]

-business is about improving the lives of others

-You don't have to have a purpose

-If you execute on many ideas, the right idea will become available so don't have to worry about picking the right one

-Imagination, free time, creativity is what will deliver value

-Only do things you enjoy

-Listen to your tendency to procrastinate on certain tasks

-Time and energy minimalism, not just material

-experiment because you don't know which avenue will pan out, don't really know what the intersection of your interests will look like

-just be good enough to get to the intersection of your interests

-give a company ideas on how they can improve

-James got a writing gig when he wrote sample articles for companies he was interested in working for

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Jean-Paul Sartre: [writings about freedom, choice, responsibility, making meaning]

-All of the endless choices we make day to day make up who we are

-We are completely free to invent ourselves every minute

-You are not bound by external circumstances and to say that is just a way to escape the anguish of freedom

-Authentic action, not Aristotle's 'fulfillment,' is the highest good

-Moral philosophy is not useful, take authentic action

-Choosing and inventing are the same thing

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Whitney Cummings: [comedy/podcasting about real-life struggles, tough topics in a humorous way]

-Don't be afraid to say no

-You don't need to protect everyone from uncomfortable feelings [that's codependence]

-schedule worry

-schedule decision-making time

-can develop unconditional level of healthy self-esteem that isn't contingent upon how good of a performer you are

-you can turn your childhood trauma and broken DNA into a superpower. It's your ego blaming your parents

-neurological hygiene - treating what you consume mentally the same way you treat what you consume food wise

-ask yourself, "Am I going to feel proud of this in two days?" Instead of "Am I going to be happy?" Happiness is too vague