Bella's Blog

EP. 138: TREAT YOUR LIFE AS AN EXPERIMENT" WITH JAMES ALTUCHER

just do something with no research [ex. he took ping pong lessons at a random place]

if James set himself a firm goal to finish his novel, he would not have tried stand-up comedy, his inner compass was telling him to go in this direction. After trying comedy and wanting to go further, he said he wouldn't work on his novel.

don't really know what the Venn diagram of your interests will look like until you are there, doesn't mean quit your job, just experiment [in interests that make money now and make money later]

intersection of all your interests will make the most money

just good enough to know what's gonna happen at that intersection

mediocre at a lot of different things, never know if intersection will turn into huge opportunity even if pieces never made money, things aligned with values, intersection aligned with values, it's going to work out

around same time that he wrote, he invested

"I have some ideas to improve your sales [anything really] at this company. I'm not charging anything. I'm happy to talk to you guys or not, but here's 10 ideas. 10 ideas you could just have for free and they're uniquely catered to you. Knock yourselves out. See you later."

What could the company do better? Give them ideas.

"I love your articles. I would love to see you write these. I have described the articles completely."

When James did this, he got a writing gig.

EP. 720: WHITNEY CUMMINGS - WHAT IS WRONG WITH MODERN WOMEN?

Whitney schedules worry "You have two hours to worry about this in three weeks"

she also schedules making decisions about things since she has really bad decision fatigue

"How little do you respect yourself? How little do you respect your time?" when you are saying yes to things you don't want to do

People don't trust themselves when they do things they don't want to do

EP. 448: JON BIRGER - ARE WOMEN IN CHARGE OF THE DATING MARKET?

a group of economists got a Nobel Prize in matching strategy

whichever party initiates the match is better off on average

married people earn more than single people

women's dating gets harder when they get older, but not for men

musical chairs analogy - 25 players & 24 chairs, first round of musical chairs are at 4% and the last, you get a 50% chance of losing [not just for educated women, but for everyone]

4 to 3 ratio to 2-1 ratio when half of women get married, once 5 more couples pair up, becomes 3 to 1 ratio

men have broader cross-section because they are dating younger

even if dating someone your own age, still this problem occurs

OkCupid study - men don't see a big difference in beauty between a 33 year old and 23 year old

breadwinners have been increasing & higher percentage of less educated

NOT ONLY IN COLLEGE GRADUATES BUT EVERYWHERE!

men are more choosy when it comes to education, not the other way around

how easy does he think it is for women to hack the hypergamous nature? It's about how they meet! Online dating exasperates the issue essentially!