"Some orgasm most reliably from oral sex. Some orgasm most reliably from manual stimulation without a penis in their vagina. Some orgasm most reliably from stimulation of their clitoris (by their own hand, their partner's hand, or a vibrator) while a penis (or dildo) is in their vagina. Oftentimes, a woman needs a variety of these activities"
15-45 minutes vs. 2-10 minutes
"To understand orgasms, remember engorgement, which is when those special capillaries in erectile tissue let the blood in and not out. All that blood going into your erectile tissue creates tension that builds up to a very high point. An orgasm is when powerful, rhythmic muscle contractions release that tension. These muscles are called pelvic floor muscles and their contractions prevent additional blood from coming into your erectile tissue. When the contractions cease, blood flows in and out again, rather than just in, and your erectile tissue shrinks back to its original size and color......many women feel the intense, pulsing muscle contractions of orgasm, yet others feel a general buildup of muscle tension followed by a very pleasurable feeling of overall release. Some orgasms feel intense and some feel diffuse. An orgasm can feel like riding a series of waves or like being part of one huge tidal wave. Some people experience orgasms as a loud bang, others as a whisper"
Can make orgasms feel bigger by exercising pelvic floor muscles
Pleasure-oriented sex and not goal-oriented sex Entitled to pleasure, not orgasm
Use intercourse instead of the word "sex"
"Most movie scenes depicting simultaneous orgasms involve a man and woman having intercourse when they not only orgasm at the same moment but both do so from penile thrusting alone. You already know this isn't going to happen for most women, but here's the other reason that simultaneous-orgasm scenes are mythical: To accomplish this goal, both partners would need to be even more tuned in to each other's impending orgasm than their own. Yet precisely the opposite is needed for orgasm- that is, mindfulness to stay totally tuned in to your own pleasurable sensations. The author of The Guide to Getting It On debunks the simultaneous-orgasm myth further, telling readers that it's not desirable for both partners to come at the same time, since it's awesome to feel or watch your partner have an orgasm"
Use a memory palace to memorize THE PLAYS
Make a copy of The Twelve Commandments for Orgasm Equality
Tell people about the PLAYS
Tell people what I learned from this book
additional resources in back of book
tells how to do pelvic floor pilates & kegels